"You are tenacious. I love a woman who won't give up." William Luse 6/1/04
"Kudos also to Elena, who proved that she can take it as well as she can dish it." TSO 6/4/04
"the wonderful Elena" Nathan Nelson 8/1/04
"Elena, I quake at the sound of your name" John B-Catholic Packer Fan 8-12-04
"I like your writing and your spunk." Todd Flowerday, Catholic Sensibility 11-8-04
"Elena is is so many shades of stupid they don't make a Crayola box big enough to begin coloring her" Anonymous TWA blog 2/05
"Well, Elena cuts to the chase. Says it like it is and doesn't mince her words." Alexa of Domestic Excellence
"Elena, a woman I have little in common with but have come to be fond of" Cecily Kellog 9/15/05
"I work nonstop to help people with stupidly limited perspectives, like you, accept this reality. Even when it’s hopeless, like in your case. You live in a fantasy. I can’t help you" Also Cecily Kellog 07/2020
"Your witness is horrendous" JCecil of Liberal Catholic News
"Truth, love, charity, and, oh yeah, sensitivity, decorum, good taste and a dollop of wit. That's more like it. Keep rockin'!" PMC 12/05
"I've also been reading this blog for some time and just noticed I hadn't added you to my favorite blogs. Done!" The Mighty Barrister 5/21/04
"Now go haul your huge, sagging, obese, smelly old body out of the chair and take care of those kids of yours before I call CPS and have them do an inspection and see what you're really up to when you're supposed to be homeschooling them." NMH 2006
"That you are one narcissistic, bizaare individual." Jill Filipovic on Feministe Blog September 2006
"I could certainly continue to go back and forth (and believe me, I would love to!!!!!), but that would be answering a fool according to his folly." Amy-anti-Catholic blogger at Blessed Motherhood 7/07/07!
"Where's Elena? We need Elena." Kathryn the Daring Young Mom 2/17/06
"I have no problem with Elena. I find her answers to be quite lucid, witty, and insightful." David B commenting on In Today's News 10/29/05
"She's not cranky, she just senses happiness and snuffs it out." Gabe, age 9, after being scolded for not being ready for swim practice. 12/0
"you are one narcissistic, bizaare, individual." Jill Filipovic 9/11/2006
"Elena of My Domestic Church get’s my nomination for living a life of loveliness that I could only ever dream of. She’s an awesome wife and mother, a deeply committed Catholic, a proponent of pro-life issues, a hands on make-and-bake-and-cut-and-stick-musical-momma, a prayerful, compassionate, thoughtful and passionate woman who endeavours to live a christocentric life in her own euphonious way. Yes, I am proud to know her as a blog buddy and sharing in her trials and her triumphs via reading her blog over the last few years has impacted me more than she could know… and always for the better." Deb from Ukok's Place 08/2007
"I have a feeling elena never moves on from anything. other than the couch to the fridge." 08/2007 commenter on the now defunct Rock Star Mommy Blog.
"I think you're a shrew." Anne Basso 7/08
"Even with our differences, I will say one thing--she's smart. I may not always agree with what she says, but she doesn't spout unsupported garbage as fact." Ruthjoec aka JAnn from AOL Catholic message boards and This That and the Other Thing Blog
"I was wrong. You were right. God bless you" T from LO2W blog 3/6/2008
"As a Catholic Mother myself, I enjoy reading My Domestic Church. It's one of the many blogs that I follow and read regularly. It's refreshing to read comments from a mother that shares your views. So much of what Elena has me nodding my head in agreement. I'm sure that any Catholic-Mother will enjoy reading Elena's blog." SAMinIL on Blog Catalog 9/09
"Because of my interest in Benedictine spirituality and monasticism, began reading about the Domestic Church. This site is an excellent resource. Like any good family it is alive with energy and the Holy Spirit." John on Blog Catalog 12/08
"I watched your talk on YouTube and thought you and your husband did a wonderful job. Very natural, not stilted. Your account of your child, Raphael's, life and death were extremely touching and profound." Eileen via e-mail 02/21/2010
"Happy Easter to you Elena! Four years ago I discovered Candy. Two years ago I discovered you. Last night (Easter Vigil) I was received into full communion with the Catholic Church. It was a beautiful night and one I will remember forever. Thanks to you and Kelly for clearing up any confusion there may be about what the Church believes, teaches, and proclaims. Have a blessed Easter season!" From a VTC reader. 05/2010
"Elena, You completely 'foul up' the catechism. I repeat you are a nice lady, but your lack of education and knowledge, as your distorted answers show," Jack from Liberal Catholic Sports Music 1/9/2009
"you repeatedly impress me. I know we have very different political views that show up in our comments to each other at times, but I have never once felt anything but generosity from you toward who I am." JB via e-mail 7/23/2010
"The post I really love, though is 28 Things I Learned About Marriage in 28 Years at My Domestic Church. In fact, it's so good I plan to show it on the first day of class for my Family and Society course this." Sister Edith at Monastic Musings
Elena was animated, enthusiastic, faith shined through! She was very real. For us, she was relatable and so honest and open. She motivated us the most and we are thankful that she shared so much of her personal life to show example. some PreCana evals from 2014
"you never cease to amaze me, and everyone else! You are unbelievably unforgettably wow! I'm so blessed to be your cousin and friend. Dan - My domestic cousin 5/2014
"Elena: A flute could never sound or feel so etherial as when you play." Marissa
"Your comments are continually provoking, idiotic and condescending" my nephew 11/2018
" As a mom of littles, I really appreciate moms like you tackling these tough issues and sharing your wisdom!" Laura commenting on Catholicmom 06/2019
"Thanks so much for a thoughtful article faithful to the teachings of our faith, while being compassionate towards gay people."Tim commenting on Catholicmom dot com 06/2019
"Grandma, snuggle me!" - My domestic granddaughter 2017
"When Elena turns the other cheek, it's so she can whip around the other side with full force!" Mr. Pete My Domestic Husband!
SOME children leave college with huge debt- some do not. Scholarships are most often given to Freshmen. They are not held for a few years until the student gains credits from other places. Renee- from the Catholic board- has two on full rides to expensive colleges after homeschooling. A fiend, Marie, has five of her nine through Catholic Universities with very little debt (less than $10,000).
Almost all of Marie's are engaged/married to Catholics and working. She has four more at home- planning on attending good Catholic Universities as well.
I think it is a shame that because the parent is SO fearful that their child will be in debt- they discourage going to University. Homeschooling College is a nice thing—but the reality is that most students are ready to grow up and leave to try out what they have learned. They have to leave in order to find their own way. You did. Your mother did. Even your ancestor did.
Benedictine is an excellent college. It gives excellent scholarships to four year students. I have not heard the same about Stubenville (good college- not great scholarships). I think there has to be someplace where our Catholic children can go- to meet other practicing Catholics- to network for a career- to work a profession.
You and I differ on what a University is for. I do not see it for a JOB but an education.
OTOH- there is always the military, union work or trades. Those are all great ways of going. I do not think everyone is cut out for college. My sil never went to college- learned a trade in the military – and now makes more money than we ever did. That his ideas of the world are stuck in high school….that part is a bit sad. I still hope that he will find a way to attend classes with ideas. The problem is I don't want him to go where he now lives because the "Catholic" Universities in his area are not really Catholic….
Actually I attended college while still living at home. I took care of my grandmother and continued to help around the house. When I got married I left home but I was only 10 minutes away. I'm not a big believer in the "college experience." But I have experienced crushing debt and I don't endorse it.
Now when my mother went away to school, she was able to pay for her education by working in the food service. During her last year, she had to forgo private piano lessons so that she could make ends meet. My grandfather planted a crop of soy beans and the money for that completely paid off her last year of college. Couldn't do that today.
Many of my immediate ancestors didn't attend college. Looks like many of the great-grandmothers had many children and died young! But I'm still researching them.
Calvin will probably continue to pursue paramedics or law enforcement – neither with a college degree. Sam will continue to work and pursue College Plus! or drop CollegePlus! and just work – we'll see. Gabe is pretty clear that he does not want to go to college so I will give him the best education I can before he graduates. I think he just needs to get somewhere to play and perform as much as possible. Noah wants to go to seminary so he will go the college route, although I'm hoping we can save some $$ going the CollegePlus! route. I don't know about Izzy yet. She struggles with academics, but is very creative. and with Rosie, it's too soon to tell. She pleaded self-defense today so perhaps she will be a lawyer!
Your headline advertiser today…Liberty University. Ironic.
CollegePlus! and Liberty have a partnership http://www.collegeplus.org/liberty
I'm with you on the debt thing. I have one looking at college now, and luckily in LA we have TOPS–kids with a 2.5 on a college prep curriculum and a 23 ACT get almost free tuition to a state university. Luckily too, she has good grades and will get at least a small scholarship to help with room and board.
I am a college graduate who got the full four year live-away experience. I know there are some kids who spend a lot of that time playing, drinking etc., but I'm one who made the best of it–I read, I got involved in a variety of activities and I studied. They were four of the best years of my life and four years like that are a gift I'd love to give my kids. My son isn't interested, and so be it. My daughter is ready for it. She has the brains to be admitted to a selective private college, but I just can't see it being worth the expense–as you say, at least on the lower levels, college algebra is college algebra, and in the end, except for a very few fields, a college degree in field x is a college degree in field x and I see private colleges as an expense I can't afford and that doesn't make sense for a kid just starting out.
Janette, Renee's kids aren't in expensive schools, they are in Mississippi state-supported universities. They do both have great scholarships though.
My husband is an adjunct at several colleges and universities in the area. We call it "free-range instruction" as, for the right fee, he will teach, instruct or facilitate Philosophy, Ethics, Religion, and various classes thrown into the category of Humanities. His skills are in demand. He's the only person I know who makes a decent living as a professional adjunct, not succumbing to being hired by one school as a tenured professor. He started this as a midlife career, and prior to that worked as an instructor and senior tech for a major utility company.
I mention this because he has various client schools. Those are currently a Catholic university, two community colleges, a for-profit tech school, a college of design, and a major for-profit university. He teaches Ethics at all of them.
Where possible, he uses the exact same textbook, the exact same reference materials, and the exact same syllabus tailored to the school in question. Students at all schools get the exact same guy, his same style of classroom patter, even his same grading scale.
The students at the community colleges are paying about $100-$125 per semester hour. The Catholic university students are paying $600 if they are full time students, $760 if they take 11 semester hours or less. The for-profit schools fit in between, anywhere from $350-$550 per semester hour.
A student or parent with this piece of information would do well to check the catalogs and do some comparison shopping. If still unsure, a call to the department head to ask who is instructing which course could save a lot of money. More than a few students at my husband's client Catholic university have figured it out. They take classes at the community college and transfer those to the Catholic university.