What would I do?

I am at the age where my oldest son has discovered girls. Or rather they have discovered him! For the second time this year I have a young lady who is calling my son several times a day to chit chat! Luckily this one lives 30-45 minutes away by car and my son knows I am NOT going to pay for his long-distance charges!!

But that said, we have had the talk over an over again about chastity, the strength of youth, what it takes to be married, the responsibility of saving sex for marriage etc. etc. etc.

My second son, who is a still very sweet 11 year old, asked me a while ago what I would do if they “forgot” and did get a girl pregnant. Jill over at the Third Wave Agenda sort of asked the same question:

i wonder what you would say if one of your daughters had an unintended pregnancy and wanted to terminate it. i don’t get the feeling you’d be particularly sympathetic.

This is what I told Sam and Calvin. We have raised them to be responsible Catholic Christians and we expect that over the next 10-20 years they will be using their time to grow in their faith, educate themselves and try to determine what God’s call is for their lives. I hope they both find wonderful Catholic women to marry (and I plan to be Naomi to my daughter’s in laws, whatever it takes, I’m going to be a GREAT Mother in law!!)or I hope they answer the call to the priesthood.

HOWEVER, I know that sometimes kids make stupid mistakes. Heck, sometimes we adults still make stupid mistakes. It happens! I told them that they can ALWAYS tell me or Mr. Pete when they make such a mistake.

Now, that doesn’t mean I won’t rant or rave for 20 minute or so… but they should be use to that. I asked Sam, “How many rants of mine have you heard in your lifetime? Do you think you could stand to let me have one more for a major screw up?”

Sam giggled and said yea, he could probably weather one of my famous rants – beause he knows that when it was over, he would get a hug and we would deal with the situation as a family. That he wouldn’t have to be alone, and that Mr. Pete and I would always help him get back on track. I think that information made them both feel better – knowing what to expect in a crisis. I’m glad we talked it out.

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