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Updated on November 19, 2024November 21, 2023Holidays

10 Ways to Survive Grief, Loss and Change through the Holidays

The family gathered around my sister’s dining room table. Her centerpiece was stunning and the table setting was flawless. The smells of the turkey with all of the fixings wafted through the air and mixed with the sounds of … Read the rest

Updated on November 3, 2024October 9, 2023pregnancy loss

10 Things I’d like the Mother of a stillborn or miscarried child to know.

On November 1 of this year, Mr. Pete and I will commemorate the twenty-second anniversary of the short life and death of our sixth child, Raphael. I can’t believe how quickly time has passed or how much things have changed … Read the rest

Updated on May 23, 2019February 4, 2019Uncategorized

Helping Someone in Grief

I had planned to go to Candlemas and the blessing of the candles at my parish’s daily mass at 8 a.m. But my daughter wanted to run in the early morning with her running friends so I couldn’t go. I … Read the rest

Updated on May 23, 2019November 23, 2016Uncategorized

Grief loss and change during the holidays- making new traditions

I wrote an article here last year about grief and the holidays and specifically about Christmas time. Thanksgiving time can be a pretty hard time when you’re grieving as well. Long-time readers might remember that I grew up in a … Read the rest

Updated on May 23, 2019May 2, 2016Uncategorized

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Outside my window…

I am thinking…
About the weekend, the funeral, and all of my in-laws who came together for that event. It was wonderful to see everyone and to be in touch with them, and … Read the rest

Updated on May 23, 2019January 20, 2016Uncategorized

A Death in the Family – Dealing with all of the Stuff!

My latest on Catholicmom.com

My family and I lost another family member this week, kind of unexpectedly. This was a wonderful woman who had all kinds of plans for the rest of her life after massive weight loss and a … Read the rest

Updated on May 23, 2019January 19, 2016Uncategorized

Glenn Frey RIP

The news came through tonight that Glen Frey had passed away at age 67…

and a little bit of my heart broke.

Sitting at the dinner table, my 10-year-old daughter saw the tear in my eye as I managed to … Read the rest

Updated on May 23, 2019January 13, 2016Uncategorized

A Death in the Family – Losing an Older Sister

When Mr. Pete and I give our Pre-Cana talk to young engaged couples, we always give a bit about our own backgrounds. Mr. Pete is the 8th of 9 kids and he gets a big kick out taking a deep … Read the rest

Updated on May 23, 2019January 6, 2016Uncategorized

On losing a former pastor – Father McDonough

My former pastor, Father McDonough, passed away last evening. I’m not sure how old he was but the diocese web sites says he started his first assignment as parochial vicar in 1950. He was the pastor of the parish I … Read the rest

Updated on May 23, 2019November 25, 2015Uncategorized

Dealing with the holiday blues

A few years ago I blogged about Grief, Loss and Change over the Holidays – Making New Traditions. As I wrote it, I was thinking mainly about those holidays that had to be faced after the death of beloved … Read the rest

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Cheers and Jeers

"You are tenacious. I love a woman who won't give up." William Luse 6/1/04

"Kudos also to Elena, who proved that she can take it as well as she can dish it." TSO 6/4/04

"the wonderful Elena" Nathan Nelson 8/1/04

"Elena, I quake at the sound of your name" John B-Catholic Packer Fan 8-12-04

"I like your writing and your spunk." Todd Flowerday, Catholic Sensibility 11-8-04

"Elena is is so many shades of stupid they don't make a Crayola box big enough to begin coloring her" Anonymous TWA blog 2/05

"Well, Elena cuts to the chase. Says it like it is and doesn't mince her words." Alexa of Domestic Excellence

"Elena, a woman I have little in common with but have come to be fond of" Cecily Kellog 9/15/05

"I work nonstop to help people with stupidly limited perspectives, like you, accept this reality. Even when it’s hopeless, like in your case. You live in a fantasy. I can’t help you" Also Cecily Kellog 07/2020

"Your witness is horrendous" JCecil of Liberal Catholic News

"Truth, love, charity, and, oh yeah, sensitivity, decorum, good taste and a dollop of wit. That's more like it. Keep rockin'!" PMC 12/05

"I've also been reading this blog for some time and just noticed I hadn't added you to my favorite blogs. Done!" The Mighty Barrister 5/21/04

"Now go haul your huge, sagging, obese, smelly old body out of the chair and take care of those kids of yours before I call CPS and have them do an inspection and see what you're really up to when you're supposed to be homeschooling them." NMH 2006

"That you are one narcissistic, bizaare individual." Jill Filipovic on Feministe Blog September 2006

"I could certainly continue to go back and forth (and believe me, I would love to!!!!!), but that would be answering a fool according to his folly." Amy-anti-Catholic blogger at Blessed Motherhood 7/07/07!

"Where's Elena? We need Elena." Kathryn the Daring Young Mom 2/17/06

"I have no problem with Elena. I find her answers to be quite lucid, witty, and insightful." David B commenting on In Today's News 10/29/05

"She's not cranky, she just senses happiness and snuffs it out." Gabe, age 9, after being scolded for not being ready for swim practice. 12/0

"you are one narcissistic, bizaare, individual." Jill Filipovic 9/11/2006

"Elena of My Domestic Church get’s my nomination for living a life of loveliness that I could only ever dream of. She’s an awesome wife and mother, a deeply committed Catholic, a proponent of pro-life issues, a hands on make-and-bake-and-cut-and-stick-musical-momma, a prayerful, compassionate, thoughtful and passionate woman who endeavours to live a christocentric life in her own euphonious way. Yes, I am proud to know her as a blog buddy and sharing in her trials and her triumphs via reading her blog over the last few years has impacted me more than she could know… and always for the better." Deb from Ukok's Place 08/2007

"I have a feeling elena never moves on from anything. other than the couch to the fridge." 08/2007 commenter on the now defunct Rock Star Mommy Blog.

"I think you're a shrew." Anne Basso 7/08

"Even with our differences, I will say one thing--she's smart. I may not always agree with what she says, but she doesn't spout unsupported garbage as fact." Ruthjoec aka JAnn from AOL Catholic message boards and This That and the Other Thing Blog

"I was wrong. You were right. God bless you" T from LO2W blog 3/6/2008

"As a Catholic Mother myself, I enjoy reading My Domestic Church. It's one of the many blogs that I follow and read regularly. It's refreshing to read comments from a mother that shares your views. So much of what Elena has me nodding my head in agreement. I'm sure that any Catholic-Mother will enjoy reading Elena's blog." SAMinIL on Blog Catalog 9/09

"Because of my interest in Benedictine spirituality and monasticism, began reading about the Domestic Church. This site is an excellent resource. Like any good family it is alive with energy and the Holy Spirit." John on Blog Catalog 12/08

"I watched your talk on YouTube and thought you and your husband did a wonderful job. Very natural, not stilted. Your account of your child, Raphael's, life and death were extremely touching and profound." Eileen via e-mail 02/21/2010

"Happy Easter to you Elena! Four years ago I discovered Candy. Two years ago I discovered you. Last night (Easter Vigil) I was received into full communion with the Catholic Church. It was a beautiful night and one I will remember forever. Thanks to you and Kelly for clearing up any confusion there may be about what the Church believes, teaches, and proclaims. Have a blessed Easter season!" From a VTC reader. 05/2010

"Elena, You completely 'foul up' the catechism. I repeat you are a nice lady, but your lack of education and knowledge, as your distorted answers show," Jack from Liberal Catholic Sports Music 1/9/2009

"you repeatedly impress me. I know we have very different political views that show up in our comments to each other at times, but I have never once felt anything but generosity from you toward who I am." JB via e-mail 7/23/2010

"The post I really love, though is 28 Things I Learned About Marriage in 28 Years at My Domestic Church. In fact, it's so good I plan to show it on the first day of class for my Family and Society course this." Sister Edith at Monastic Musings

Elena was animated, enthusiastic, faith shined through! She was very real. For us, she was relatable and so honest and open. She motivated us the most and we are thankful that she shared so much of her personal life to show example. some PreCana evals from 2014

"you never cease to amaze me, and everyone else! You are unbelievably unforgettably wow! I'm so blessed to be your cousin and friend. Dan - My domestic cousin 5/2014

"Elena: A flute could never sound or feel so etherial as when you play." Marissa

"Your comments are continually provoking, idiotic and condescending" my nephew 11/2018

" As a mom of littles, I really appreciate moms like you tackling these tough issues and sharing your wisdom!" Laura commenting on Catholicmom 06/2019

"Thanks so much for a thoughtful article faithful to the teachings of our faith, while being compassionate towards gay people."Tim commenting on Catholicmom dot com 06/2019

"Grandma, snuggle me!" - My domestic granddaughter 2017

"When Elena turns the other cheek, it's so she can whip around the other side with full force!" Mr. Pete My Domestic Husband!